Developmental News 3

At our recent meeting with Freya’s teacher we talked about the areas of Freya’s development we’d like to bring on: alphabet recognition, standing up for others (the social responsibility of speaking out against those who are being unkind), mastering buttons and hopping (not the most impressive skill to master, but apparently good fun).

Hopping is coming along nicely, as is being able to do up certain buttons. It’s easy to take for granted what we adults can do, but hopping appears to be a relatively difficult skill to attain. Freya’s attempts have involved a sort of galloping motion or an undainty frolicking, but today, whilst holding Mum’s hand, she managed a few true hops. I think we were happier than she was about it.

The alphabet has been the area we at home have been working on most. It started off with bringing out a box of hand-made letters and numbers that Jo’s grandad had made sometime, probably long, ago (I’d always assumed that older generations worked their fingers to the bone just to scrape and save to buy soap to eat, but this man really had too much time on his hands).

A few of the f’s have been judiciously taped to her bedroom window and above her towel in the bathroom, to instigate the learning process, and along with writing on the bathroom tiles when having a bath, and the DVD purchase of a 70’s children’s program called “Five ants are more than four elephants” (a program solely about the alphabet and numbers), she is making progress. She can now write “f, h, x” and “i”. I’m surprised, though, that she hasn’t bothered with the number 6 and the letter “o”, since she has been able to recognise these two for well over a year.

Social responsibility is a tougher nut to crack, especially for a three year-old. Not only is the idea itself foreign to a lot of parents (who wants their child to get involved in other people’s problems), but the way it is carried out needs special handling. Any such situation must be approached in a non-confrontational way, hardly a skill hoi-polloi has, let alone a child. Still, it’s a gradual process and she is making ground.

All advancements in these aptitudes has been apparent within the last week or so.

Freya’s Art : Flowers

Freya’s creativity, as well as her hand to eye co-ordination are coming on nicely, as her latest offering has to show. The heart was not done by her, though she scrawled a remarkably good Anarchy symbol on the same wall.

Those Little Slices Of Death

I am useless at either dreaming or remembering what I’ve dreamt. I think I dream more than have nightmares, but last night I had the worst of my life.

I had just ran away from crocodiles in a field by jumping over barbed wire, where I met a French lady (with children?). We got talking and walked along a path to a stone entrance, where some officially clad man was taking down/putting up/adjusting police crime-scene tape. He conversed briefly in French, and we continued on our way.

Shortly thereafter we came to some kind of courtyard where a crowd stood/sat idly. I turned to look at wild strawberry plants that were growing on one of the surrounding stone walls that surrounded the courtyard, and when I turned back the lady and Freya had disappeared.

The last part of the dream, before I woke up, involved my running around furiously, knowing in my heart that Freya had been abducted.

It hardly needs saying that I found the whole experience terrible; I can not think of a scenario that equals this in sheer heart-breaking frustration. Still, it was only a dream.

Freya’s Good Taste

I’m so pleased that Freya has a special friendship with Jack. Not only is it wonderful for our daughter to be one with another child, but it has also led to our socialising with Jack’s parents, Mark and Sara.

It has been a very long time since I have found others with whom I can truly relax, the conversation never appears forced, and I never feel an awkwardness in the (few) moments of silence.

Within the past few weeks we have got together a number of times, and I feel like our relationship could develop into a strong friendship. And it only took Freya to show me the possibility.

Freya’s First Year School Assesment

Freya is a charming and capable girl who has a joyous personality and is loaded with potential. She radiates a desire for learning and consequently picks up new information quickly. She is kind, friendly and helpful to all her friends, but however has closer preferences to Jack.

Freya has grown in confidence and is a respected member of the group and has no problem expressing her likes and dislikes. She has a good understanding of what is acceptable and unacceptable, although this does not always prevent her from being easily influenced by others.

We can consider that Freya takes English as a second language. In spite of the fact that she prefers to communicate in Swedish most of the time, she does not show any kind of difficulties in learning both languages. She has a good understanding of both and is able to express herself with ease. She seems to enjoy herself when she is able to communicate or establish a conversation with a teacher.

The use of Freya’s fine and gross motor skills is age appropriate. However, although her skills in eating (using a knife and fork), dressing and undressing are very good and very creative, still, she demonstrates the need for more practice so as to help her increase her control and coordination.

Freya is more than ready to be exposed to new fields and challenges. She has shown great progress in all aspects. She has been a great inspiration for us all and has charmed us with her sweet presence. We wish her the best on her new step in life in moving to the Butterflies.